Also, regarding my once ‘friendship’ with Alex.
I met Alex in 2009 at the first SitC, but I had at that point been in contact with him for a year or so because I was a fan and had voluntarily decided to design the Parrot Stories art for him as a fun project for myself and to feel part of the wider Nerdfighter community. (He later gave me £200 as a thank you for drawing his album art and the Harry Moon face.)
Our conversations were ever only about his music and my art. For that I am thankful.
Anyway, we were vaguely friends from 2008 onwards. When I started Uni in 2009 I went to stay at his house (while he still lived with his Mum) and while Chartjackers stuff was happening. It was in the October when we had a week scheduled to go see art in museums and Alex had offered his spare room to stay in for a night. We went to a load of art galleries and just hung out around London. I stayed in the spare room (he offered to share a bed, because that’s what everyone else who stayed over did, but I was in a new relationship with James, the same James I’m with now, 4 and a half years later) but I declined and said the spare would suit me fine.
The next day we hung out with the Chartjackers while they filmed for the 4:01 show, Alex and Charlie and I got food and I got my train back to Uni.
We hung out again at 2010 SitC and again the next October when I stayed at his and Charlie’s flat and stayed on the blow up mattress they had for guests. Once again we had a fun two days going around art galleries and chatting and listening to music. Nothing would have clued me to the way he has been revealed to have behaved towards other girls and young women in this time period. Though in retrospect one of the first things he asked was, ‘how’s James’ which could easily be back translated to, ‘are you single yet?’?
We barely spoke really over the next while, I CBA to search but I bet there were maybe 2 emails between us until I next decided I wanted to go to London and have somewhere to stay for free. So I emailed him and I planned another 2 day trip around November 2012.
This trip was less fun than the previous two because at one point he left me in his living room for three hours while he went to his singing lesson and I sat reading while Bryarly sat watching ATLA on her laptop. That was weird.
Anyway. As a ‘friend’ and nothing more he wasn’t ever a real friend.
There’s so much more I could say but I basically stopped caring about him when he and Lindsey fell out because I’ve met Lindsey and she is lovely and my sister’s friend and after talking to her this summer I decided that I just couldn’t be bothered with Alex at all anymore.
It’s been so easy to believe how skeezy he is and so easy to unfriend him and unfollow him.
My heart goes out to all those affected by his actions and those of other previously trusted members of our community.